Saturday, June 20, 2015

Sometimes It's Okay To Quit


Here's something that will probably get me kicked out of every successful person's club ever created: Sometimes it's okay to quit.  It's okay to quit  jobs, friends, relationships, hobbies, being an adult (temporarily), and anything else that is exhausting, infuriating, unpleasant, or just not fun.  It's okay to let it go, even if you sometimes have no back up plan......well, except for the job thing maybe. It's probably best to have a back up plan for that if you want to quit your current job.  Because, while quitting paying bills may seem like a good idea, the novelty of that will fade as quick as your electricity when your utilities get cut off.

But as I was saying;  if it is toxic to your mental health, self-esteem, well being, relationship or marriage, ability to properly parent, or anything else that is important to you, then just quit it.  Drop it.  Let it go and move on.

It's like that Shinedown song  says:  Sometimes goodbye is a second chance.

Sometimes when we quit, it gives us the chance to look at things from a new perspective.  We realize how much we have lost....or gained (because there is something to be learned from every situation) from the time we spent on something that deep down we knew was was poison to our souls and negatively affecting our lives.  Letting go of what makes us sad, quitting the things that hurt us opens our eyes to more of what makes us happy.  It allows us to focus on what's good in our lives.  It affords us the opportunity to start over.

It really is okay to quit.  People do it with bad habits all the time.  (Take it from a reformed nail biter).  It's not worth keeping anything around -- people included -- that saps your time and energy, and detracts you from doing the things you should be or want to be doing.

Quitting things that are toxic also opens you up to people and experiences that support your goals and dreams.  It gives you freedom to pursue what your heart is telling you (as long as you can get your head to shut up).  It gives you an inner peace that cannot be bought; and it makes our lives so much better.

If you have someone or something toxic in your life, quit it (or them).  Just let it go.  I know it's easier said than done, but I promise in the end it will totally be worth it.


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