Saturday, September 27, 2008

So I"ve finally come to the realization that mom was right

Confession: Sometimes I really, really need a break from the kids.

I love my kids. I adore my kids. The happiness and well-being of my children are my top priority. I am sure most moms reading along with my musings all this time, probably feel the same, or close to it anyway. So, I have to ask, why do we so often feel guilty if we want or need time away from our kids? Why are we taken to task by some about our 'parenting commitment' or our 'family values'? It is ridiculous I tell you.

I tell you boldly that I want some time away from my kids! Yes, I think that it is perfectly acceptable, dare I say even necessary, for a woman to have portions of her life, of her self, that are separate from that which she shares with her children. This is not a sin. This is not bad parenting. In fact I think it is quite the contrary. I think a little 'me' time every once in a while makes a much more happy, secure, focused mommy!

I am not talking about two weeks alone in the south of France. I am talking about an hour or two to go out to dinner with the girls, a few hours a week to go to the gym (ha ha but who does that, right?), or just some time to take a bath, read a book, or as I've said before, watch an uninterrupted segment of Days of our Lives . Is this really too much to ask?Apparently for some moms, it is. My hubby is petty good about this stuff, in as much as I will usually get an 'ok' if I prearrange. But, he still needs a little work. I think they all do.

There is an undeniable guilt factor that many woman (myself included) feel when they are out on their own, or doing something that does not somehow relate to their homes or their family. I am here to tell you that it is OKAY to take a little time to just be who you are. Time not to be Mrs. so and so, or so and so's mommy; time to just be Michelle, or Susan, or Kim, or whoever who are/were before you had kids. I knew it was dramatically apparent that we as moms were getting desperate for time away, when my friend told me that she was excited about her upcoming gynecologist appointment because it meant that she could leave hubby with their two kids for a couple of hours. Now this is desperation people!

Heck we've gotten to the point where we are satisfied when our 'me time' is made up of grocery shopping, doctor's visits, heck even dental work is seeming appealing to some at this point. This is not acceptable! So I would ask you, implore you, to take time out this weekend to do something that is JUST for you. Take an afternoon, an hour, or 10 minutes, but do one thing that you can completely and totally claim as your own. Then let me know if it doesn't make you feel at least a little bit better!

Do it for me, since I can't. My "me" time will have to wait until hubby makes it back from Houston......whenever that may be.

2 comments:

Maren said...

It's interesting how many people/moms have expressed this same thing lately. I believe we need "breathers" now and then --a little bit of time to step away, do something that is just completely you, and then come back refreshed and ready to go.

chantal said...

Something just for me??I have no idea what that even is anymore!!! I look forward to grocery shopping when the kids AND hubby are NOT with me. Honestly that is about as much me time as I get. An uninterrupted episode of Days of Our Lives would be fantastic. Just sitting there watching instead of listening to the tv while doing work will be completely foreign to me. I will try it though. I DO need just ME time.